Let me ask… DOES ANY OF THIS SOUNDS LIKE YOU?

1. Some or all relationships seem challenging for you. They are fleeting, unstable or flash points in your life. With all your friends and colleagues all relationships seem transactional…trying to use and avoid being use is the modus operendi. Regarding your family, you’re never on the same page as your siblings or even more of a deal-breaker is that there is little if any communication with you mom or dad… or even worse between you and your kids. That bond has been broken and all interactions are anxious or stressful. More importantly, there is nothing but worry and anxiety between you and a significant other. With all relationships floundering, its difficult to think of your life as successful.

2. Getting, growing or keeping money are struggles and a time-consuming frustration in your life. You feel underpaid for your contribution and efforts. You’re maxed out on credit cards . You make a lot and spend even more. You have nothing in an IRA and you are 37 years old. You haven’t a clue as to what you need to satisfy your definition of monetary success other than an irrational response of “a few million bucks”… which would probably disappear given that much feel into your lap. You read a dozen or so books and spent a “few thou” (on you credit card) to take a Dave Ramsey course or a Tony Robbins Wealth seminar…yet here you are…anxious.

3. While you’re aware of what the world considers success… since you learned that reading/listening to all those 100’s of success books and DVD’s. But down deep you struggle and are unsure how you can authentically define for yourself. You’ve done a lot, got educated or credentialed and have some trappings of achieving . But then…who really defined it for you? Yup, you are climbing the ladder, but not so quickly and sometimes , in your gut ,you think you might be on the wrong ladder. Ok waht to do? More books, DVD courses, seminars from gurus, or private coaching- yes, do more of this, right? Then why the anxiety?

4. It is awkward, if not impossible for you to speak up, speak out and speak your mind. You are not alone here as there is a gaggle of people that share this inability with you. And with this enormous anxiety, the path traveled to counseling , talking, analysis, and self medicating, legally and otherwise is well traveled. How much success can one have in many other areas, yet be so crushed with anxiety that one cant even speak their mind…given that they even know their mind. Sure, you got some cheddar and a cute spouse, yet you can’t assert yourself. More books, counseling, therapy meditation? Oh you’ve done that…and here you are .

5. You don’t feel secure in your life. Fear seems to inhabit you regularly. Every day, something , in some way ( big or small ) freezes you in your tracks to take any action. You are always “going to” Procrastination is your safety net from failing. Nothing tried-nothing lost and you are successful if you have never failed , right?

6. You live continually with a multitude of aches and pains that come and go. You don’t feel flexible, strong or at ease in your own body. EVERYONE feels this way, right? And in some ways you may be correct, but you, yourself, have a few hundred excuses as to why you are this way. Overworked, genetics, stress of work, family or finances…or you are getting older. Aches, soreness and tension are just a natural part of living you are assured. But on the ohter hand you will try some exercise, mediation, yoga, Tai Chi, Pilates to mitigate this as you have been dutifully told by experts , celebrities or gurus, in popular books or on TV. Intuitively you know, that regardless of any outward appearance of success by cultural standards, you are not a success if you are a wound up aching knot with a myriad of physical symptoms.
If some or all of these resonate with you, then the common thread weaving through here is that Anxiety and Worry comprise the ever- present 200lb gorilla on your back. Yes Anxiety, and if you are the person that knows this and acknowledges it , then I am sure that you’ve been directly trying to do something for a long, long time-and unsuccessfully. Anxiety runs your life and its almost impossible to accomplish with that weight on you. However, on the other hand you may be the person where many aspects (Relationships, Finances, Success Track) of your life appear OK but they are just strained. You as an achiever probably don’t call it Anxiety, but rather Stress. From the outside one might see you accomplishing, but yet you know and feel the massive stress 24-7. I have been in your shoes, and I can assuredly tell you…it’s not stress, it’s ANXIETY. So…